Oppression against Men

Mistreatment Against Male.

My deepest sympathy goes with all men out there who are continuously being tortured emotionally , mentally , physically  by the world and specifically women.

They are under continued stress at work and have to kill long working hours , are tortured by wives and family members at homes for not fulfilling demands and who are being laughed and looked down upon for complain about all atrocities and injustice against them.Who ever is facing such situation surely tries to fight back in his capacity whether knowing it or unknowingly. 

Many organizations throughout the world are struggling hard for rights of females. They are trying to protect them in every possible way against oppression , violence etc. and advocate for equal opportunities to live in this World. Every day we come across many women activists shouting on media for the rights of females.  

 But I personally believe there must be organizations to stand for rights of male and protect them from the violence and harassment from women .

If we see our culture in Asia, females are considered as weak compared to male some male take it as their birth right to treat females badly , even beat them ,especially after marriage. Many cases are registered daily for violence against female for investigation. This is a common issue in most of families in South East Asia. Some come forward and some families hide it just to save their so-called ego in society.

I would  like to write for those males who face such situation .Who are treated badly and have to suffer violence . Who are actually beaten or threaten by females ,that can be their wives or any other member from society.

Violence against men, can be in different forms and situations;
  • ·         Domestic violence
  • ·         In Revenge
These cases are not highlighted as men  never discuss any such situation with others. This is against their  ego . How come they can mention this as females are considered weaker.It will not leave good impression for particular man.

Gulf news had a survey , in which it was told that 30% men are beaten at home. Many men negate this survey totally ,some think case cannot be that severe, there can be only 3-4% cases like that and some become angry to hear that .

Few years back I knew a family living in our neighborhood where a man faced such situation . This is one example, if we start inquiring about this many cases can be identified. Every one in society is aware of the fact that in many cases men suffer the consequences , men become murderer , corrupt officials , some times become addicted to drugs or mentally unstable in some cases commit suicide sometimes just because of and sometimes for women. There are many examples of the men around us who are victimized by the females in one way or the other and I believe that women’s mistreatment or harassment is severe as normally women torture mentally . Women can take help of their fake tricks , can easily lie  or even conspire against men as she knows when to use her strength of tears and emotionally blackmail others to deceive someone. 

We can see violence against men in some situations like ;
  • ·         If female is strong than male, she feels it as her right to take revenge for many other females around her who are beaten by their husbands by torturing .
  • ·         Some females do this under certain critical conditions. If they have some disease and they lose their consciousness they do not know at that time what they are actually doing. In this case beating is not limited to husband anyone who will try to cool them down or try to control them in that situation can be beaten  .
  • ·         Sometimes it happens where some females can have help of others to take any revenge from husband or anyone else.
  • ·         It also happens in families where male  have to stay with in-laws .Female thinks her on a stronger side and she torture husband or even in some cases mother in law or brother-in-law can beat  for not obeying their orders.
  • ·         It is also seen in some cases where female is illiterate and have no respect for her husband.
  • ·         If female is working , taking care of everything  and  husband is looking after his home then it can also be observed in such situations ,whenever female will be tired of work or angry about something she can mistreat her husband .
  • ·         It can be in another form , when husband was angry and he slapped his wife or hit her during argument or fight afterwards when things get normal , he can ask female to take revenge just to relax his wife. There can be two cases female can forgive her husband and can be happy just to hear this or she can take the revenge and beat him as he did and can be violent. Any victim of assault or violence suffer from many mental and physical  disorders.
  • Nowadays we are also listening about many women who are blackmailing men through social media, they are taking advantages and put men in a state of unending depression and tension.
 It is normally seen that any kind of mistreatment is result of aggression by any group of people to certain other group of people , it can be from; male to female or female to male or female to female and from male to male .

Mostly it comes from male as they are aggressive ,strong and violent. Normally emotionalism , softness etc. are thought to be feminine qualities but I think it is totally wrong. These are feelings and anyone can possess them. God have not pinned them on females. In today’s male dominated society if a man ask for guidance or help he is considered as weak and looked down upon as a female.  

As far as Muslims are concerned , it is allowed for male to even beat (very lightly , that it do not leave any mark and face must be avoided , it can be like a tap) their females but under certain severe circumstances . When females are doing something against Islamic laws , but it is emphasized that first try to convince them by discussion  but if still they do not stop ignore them try something else , use light punishment  as last option against them. Beating must not be confused with “Physical Violence” .

But as far beating ones husband is concerned Islam do not allow any female to do so , even it is said that if female is allowed to bow in front of someone except Allah , that could be  her husband. 

I know many men will be really angry after reading this and even scold me but it is a fact. I will ask them to take a break and think if they had never faced any situation in which they were hurt , mistreated or tortured by females or males.

In most of the families in Sub Continent female respect male in each relation , whether as father , brother and above all as husband . She believes that these relations are meant to protect her from every thick and thin. Many among us also believe that, ” Behind every successful man there is a woman.” In many parts of the world female stand side by side with male and become their strength and help them to gain a lot.  

I personally believe that there should not be any oppression against anyone regardless of sex. Islam have given equal rights to men and women and emphasized to behave nicely with everyone as we will be asked for how we treated others in this world.

 I hope there will be no mistreatment of men or women. All females and males should understand their responsibilities and stand with each other as their shield to reinforce and boost morale. 

What do you believe is there any need to stand for the rights of men in our society???? Do you think if it is true that men are also suffering form harassment and victims of violence from women??? Is there any need to protect their rights or if there is any such condition in the world???

I will be happy if you will share your thoughts with me.

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